You Are Drano And I Don't Drink Drano : Toxic Relationships

When you are involved in a relationship that never seems to bring anything but sadness and grief you have to take a good look at it and decide if it is a relationship that benefits all parties. 

Some relationships cannot be cultivated.  These are commonly referred to as "toxic relationships."

How do you know if a relationship is toxic?  Once you get past your own sens of denial and guilt a toxic relationship shines through clearly. 

Does this person encourage you?

When you feel bad about yourself does this person try to make you feel better about yourself?  Do they point out your good qualities?

Does this person constantly remind you or your past mistakes?  Are you constantly being judged by these events?

Do you feel good after talking to this person?  Or do you feel worse about yourself?

Do you constantly bend over backwards to please this person or make them like you? 

These are just some of the questions that you can ask yourself to determine whether a relationship may be toxic.

You have to put aside your own guilt over past mistakes and look at how the person treats you.  Even if you don't feel like you deserve to be respected, you do.

Abuse in any form is toxic.  Whether it is verbal abuse, physical abuse or sexual abuse.  It doesn't matter if it is a parent, a sibling, a boyfriend, a husband, or a friend....These relationships are not healthy.

I guarantee that you judge yourself enough for your past mistakes.  You don't need someone in your life to help you with that task.  Surround yourself with people who love you for you.  Everyone deserves to have healthy relationships no matter what mistakes they have made.